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Ex-boyfriend My ex-boyfriend, who I lived with for four years, is now married. We are still friends and he and his wife live in the same building as me. I keep dreaming that I am actually living with them and that he and I are having an affair behind his wife’s back. She suspects something is going on but says nothing. I also keep dreaming that I am moving, although in reality I have lived here for ten years and have no intention of moving. Often I wake up in the night feeling sweaty and scared. What does all this mean? Lise Dear Lise, On the surface, you have apparently accepted that you and your ex are ‘just good friends’. Most dreams carry a message about something we are unaware of in waking life but that we need to know. Your first dream seems to suggest that, deep down, you are still harbouring feelings for your ex that are by no means platonic and that you therefore need to resolve. You mention that you are 60, a stage in life when it becomes essential to reconsider our values and our priorities. I suspect that the dreams about moving are trying to show you the way forward. A deeper, wiser part of you knows that it is not good for you to live in such close proximity to your ex and his wife. This is why you wake up feeling scared. If you are unwilling to move house, then it is essential to make a serious move within your psyche. This means changing your attitude by acknowledging and, most importantly, accepting that your ex has chosen to marry someone else. His affections therefore lie primarily with her, not you: your romantic involvement belongs in the past. Issues like this are not easy to deal with on your own. You may find that you would benefit from consulting a therapist of counsellor who could help you to gain the emotional freedom you need and deserve.  (Sun Taurus, Moon Scorpio)
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